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Stock and Bonds

Yes. In answer to your question about whether I’m bonded with my baby after 14 months: Yes. Totally. Mostly. And if you want the emotional play-by-play, here it is: Love: Yes. I totally love her. It wasn’t instantaneous, and it didn’t … Continue reading

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Third Party Politics

“Should I use an egg donor?” is the debate for women dealing with rotten eggs. Approximately a 47 quadrillion threads on PVED and other donor egg forums address some version of this question, and the rhythm of the comments goes something like this: Concerned poster: … Continue reading

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Alone

The best piece of advice I’ve received from other parents is to leave well enough alone. If your baby is quiet, don’t give her a toy. If she’s happy with her toy, don’t sway her rocker. If she’s happy being swayed in her rocker, … Continue reading

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Gray Matters

You know the feeling: you’re starving, and you really want a burger, but all you have is salad, so you eat the salad, and technically you aren’t hungry anymore because the salad was huge and had lots of avocado and sunflower … Continue reading

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Eat, Play, Love

Eat. I have video footage of my baby crying while nursing my left tit because I have almost no milk. She had better luck on the right, but not much. I won’t go into the details of how awful breastfeeding has been, but … Continue reading

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You Came Out of My Vagina

You came out of my vagina, but that’s not when our story began. Seven months before you came out of my vagina, I got a positive pregnancy test on the day my grandmother died, and I hoped this time I was … Continue reading

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